Luke 11:1 And it came to pass, that, as he was praying in a certain place, when he ceased, one of his disciples said unto him, Lord, teach us to pray, as John also taught his disciples.

Prayer too often, in our minds, must be an involuntarily utterance to be authentic.  So we stall out as we wait for “it to just kind of happen.”  The reality is that prayer does not organically evolve on its own; it is stumbled upon within the sacred classroom of our personal sanctification.  Tim Keller reveals his own four step process to prayer:

In the summer after I was treated successfully for thyroid cancer, I made four practical changes to my life of private devotion.

First, I took several months to go through the Psalms, summarizing each one. That enabled me to begin praying through the Psalms regularly, getting through all of them several times a year.

The second thing I did was always to put in a time of meditation as a transitional discipline between my Bible reading and my time of prayer. (This has been a tremendous help to me!)

Third, I did all I could to pray morning and evening rather than only in the morning.

Fourth, I began praying with greater expectation.

The changes took some time to bear fruit, but after sustaining these practices for about two years, I began to have some breakthroughs. Despite ups and downs since then, I have found new sweetness in Christ and new bitterness too, because I could now see my heart more clearly in the new light of vital prayer. In other words, there were more restful experiences of love as well as more wrestling to see God triumph over evil, both in my own heart and in the world. These two experiences of prayer…grew together like twin trees. I now believe that is how it should be. One stimulates the other. The result was a spiritual liveliness and strength that this Christian minister, for all my preaching, had not had before.

Prayer is the only entryway into genuine self-knowledge. It is also the main way we experience deep change—the reordering of our loves. Prayer is how God gives us so many of the unimaginable things he has for us. Indeed, prayer makes it safe for God to give us many of the things we most desire. It is the way we know God, the way we finally treat God as God. Prayer is simply the key to everything we need to do and be in life. We must learn to pray. We have to.

Keller, Timothy. Prayer (pp. 17-18). Penguin Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.